Going through a divorce isn't a journey that has to be traumatic for everyone involved. With some effort from both adults, it is possible for the process to be handled in a manner that doesn't involve tearing important relationships to shreds.
The work that you put into having an amicable divorce is beneficial to everyone, including family members close to you and your children. Not only can this help to keep the stress down now, it can also be beneficial for child custody situations because it sets the tone for the parenting relationship.
You don't have to be enemies
One of the most important things that people going through the end of a marriage must remember is that you don't have to be enemies with your ex. It is hard for some people to realize this. However, you also don't need to fall into the mode of thinking that you must be friends with your ex. Instead, focus on having an amicable relationship that is based on mutual respect. This can also help as you progress through the terms of the divorce because it enables you to work together to handle decisions.
Custody decisions must be a priority
If you have children with your ex, you have to make their well-being a priority. Ideally, you will be able to come to decisions about the child custody quickly once you decide to divorce. This should include everything from a parenting time schedule to specific rules that are going to be nonnegotiable through the child's life.
Focus on your situation
You might need to talk to someone about the divorce, but don't let these talks overshadow the discussions you've had with your legal team. The things that worked for someone else divorcing won't necessarily work for your divorce, so be sure that you are carefully considering how decisions will affect you. One area that you must be especially careful in is allowing other people's opinions on your ex or the divorce to change your course of action.
Ultimately, you need to do what is best for your needs when you terminate your marriage. Make sure that you know your options for each aspect of the divorce and make decisions based on how each will affect your future.